The Power of Intention When Wanting to Get Him Back

There is a popular motivational “guru” out there who has a book that deals with the power of intentionally doing things. I am not here to pimp his book or even talk about the broad subject of “intention” in your life or my life…but it struck me this morning as a good topic to write on concerning relationships, especially when it is one's intention to try to get a boyfriend back.

When a relationship ends there is a school of thought that one should sit back and allow things to happen. That if it is to be that it will be. I am sure that you have heard this saying many times and if you just went through a breakup I am positive that someone has preached this to you on at least one occasion….set him or her free and if it’s meant to be…blah blah blah…

I don’t know about you but I tend to be a little bit more “proactive” when it comes to things in my life that are important to me. I want to do something to try to resolve an issue since benign neglect is perhaps one of the reasons why you are in this situation. You simply can’t just sit there and wait…you want something to do. You want instruction on exactly what you need to do to get him back...a roadmap or step by step plan that you know will work to get him back. If you are like me, getting your ex back is not something that you wish to just think happy thoughts about and hope will simply happen.

That is where “intention” comes into play. It is your intention to repair your relationship or try to do something to get him back and rebuild your relationship. Now, why is this such a horrible thing or why should it be viewed as “underhanded” or “manipulative” to wish to rebuild something that “once upon a time” was one of the most important things in your life? For instance, say you know that your ex likes you in the color blue and it tends to bring out your eyes. Would it be underhanded to wear blue the next time you see them? Let’s say that you know that, although they are angry with you or resistant to talk to you, that they might be more likely to talk with you and that their feelings for you might well up in their heart again if they saw you out shopping with your friends. Would it be considered manipulative or underhanded or a “dirty psychological trick” if you scheduled your shopping trip during the hours that they work at the mall, for instance? Some might say “yes” while others might say “no.”

What if your intentions were never known…whether you did something or said something or acted in a certain way without the intention of trying to bring about a certain outcome? Should your intentions be important if the outcome is the same either way?...whether you intentionally bring about a reaction in your mate or unintentionally bring about the same reaction. If both parties wind up happy in the end and a marriage or loving relationship that has gone awry is mended shouldn’t the party that moved forward with intention be commended and not condemned? I think so…so I commend you for your courage in wanting to win him back.

Why is it that one action is acceptable over another action when trying to rebuild a relationship if one partner is not in a state of mind where they are receptive to rekindling a relationship? For instance….forcing a partner to go to a therapist or counseling sessions never seems to work if one partner is not interested in mending the relationship yet this is the most often given answer to those who ask “what can I do to repair my relationship?” As a matter of fact, the other party typically becomes indignant and the wedge is further driven between the couple for all the effort. While on the other hand, a carefully laid out plan that take takes into consideration the other mate’s psychology might be considered before the “tried and true” approach that almost always ends in failure.

To learn more about male psychology and how to use it with intention to rebuild your relationship check out “Get Him Back Forever ” by Matt Huston for a tried and true solution to your relationship problems.