If you are serious about your desire to get your boyfriend back you should stop what you are doing and listen to this advice. With all of your good intentions and heartfelt desire you are killing any chance that you might possibly have of ever getting him back. If you are calling, emailing, texting or even talking with your ex and he has not been the one to initiate contact you are killing any chance that you have of winning him back. If you are thinking that you can convince him to come back to you by talking through your issues or promising that things will be different or telling him that you love him you are only boosting his ego and making yourself appear weak and needy.
Let’s think about this… put yourself in his position. He has broken up with you. Perhaps he has even told you that he doesn’t love you any more. Yet you still keep on coming back for more abuse. That must make him feel pretty good. That must make him feel as if he is some sort of wonderful guy that a girl that he doesn’t even want is pursuing him. Stop giving him this power.
Perhaps you have even been in this position yourself. Have you ever had a guy that you had no interest in pursue you? How did that make you feel? I bet you felt pretty good about yourself. Your confidence level soared and you wondered what it was about you that drove this guy crazy. In addition, your pursuer appeared weak and just a little bit crazy which further cemented your opinion of him and make you sure that he wasn’t someone that you wished to be in a relationship with. Are you seeing this now? Do you understand now how easily it is for you to be your own worst enemy and why any attempt on your part to try to mend this relationship is only going to make things worse?
Your goal instead should be to draw your ex back towards you and make him the one to come back to you. No amount of talking, convincing, loving words or logic coming from you at this point in time is going to get him back. He has to be the one to come up with the idea that it would benefit him to resume a relationship with you. Can you do this? Absolutely!
The first step though should be to stop actively doing anything that might directly appear to be an attempt to get him back. This means no more phone calls, emails, text messages or being nice to him if you see him. Now is the time for you to heal and prepare yourself for when the opportunity to get back together presents itself. You will want him to remember what it was like to be with you when times were good and make him regret ever breaking up with you in the first place. This means that you need to get back to being the happy, funny, caring, loving, sexy woman that every guy dreams of being with.
How do you heal? How do you get back to being the woman that he fell in love with initially? This may be tough but, go shopping! Go out to a movie. Go hand out with some of your friends and do the things that make you smile and make you happy. As a general rule, if it makes you happy then that is what you should be doing right now. Let go of all limitations and do something that you have always wanted to do. Book yourself a 4 day cruise or go to a tropical resort for a long weekend. Treat yourself well. You are a gift and nobody is going to treat you special if you don’t treat yourself special first. You deserve to be treated well by yourself first and also the man of your dreams.
As you can see, it’s actually easy to go from being your own worst enemy to your own best friend after a breakup. By focusing on yourself and building yourself back up you can drastically improve how your ex views you and thus improve your chances of getting him back.
For an indepth step by step plan that will Get Him Back Forever we recommend Matt Huston’s “Get Him Back Forever“. Find out how you can have him literally begging you for another chance.
Good Luck!
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