I know that you have probably thought of everything and tried just about everything to get your boyfriend back. Sweetheart, if I could go and talk to your ex boyfriend and tell him that he needs to get his butt back to you where he belongs I would. But that isn’t going to happen. First of all, he has no idea who I am and second of all tactics like that never seem to work.
Men are funny like that. Usually, when a guy makes up his mind that he is going to break up with someone there is no amount of talking or logic that is going to convince him that it might be a good idea to get back together. Actually, talking and trying to rationalize with a guy over a breakup is probably the worst thing that you can try to do to get him back. He is probably being stubborn (go figure!) and trying to talk to him about getting back together is only going to drive him away and destroy your chances of getting him back again.
Chances are you’re pretty emotional now also, so even though you love your ex very much it might be difficult to come off as charming, funny and sexy. Right now your state might be better described as emotional, needy and clingy if you ran into him. And if you started crying and telling him that you loved him then forget about it. Even if he did wind up feeling sorry for you and decided to give your relationship another chance it would be out of pity and he would hold all the card and all the power in the relationship, This isn’t the way to get back together and typically the way that this scenario plays out is in him leaving again in a few days to weeks which will make him even more resistant to the thought of getting back together.
So, what are you going to do? How can you actually get him back? Is it at all possible to win him back? I will tell you that it is possible. Absolutely possible to get him back. Couples get back together every day all over the world. In addition, you know this guy pretty well, right? You love him and there’s no doubt that he loved you at one point. Yes, right now he’s kind of ticked off and he is probably not talking to you. But that is fine! Really it is! This is normal so don’t sweat it. The point is that you are trying to get into a relationship with someone that you already know has an attraction to you. Yes, you’ve had some tough times but there is a connection there. It is far easier to get him back than it is to find another guy and try to start a relationship with someone that you don’t really know. This should make sense to you. Does it?
Ok, the first order of business should be to get yourself together so there are going to be some ground rules. These rules are only for a short period of time and are only necessary for the future of your relationship. Right now you are extremely emotional and everything has sort of been turned upside down. What might seem right to you is actually wrong. What might seem wrong to you is actually what is right and best for your relationship.
The most important rule is that you can’t contact him. No emailing him, calling him, texting him, stopping by his house or place of work and no hanging out in places where you think he might be. During this time of separation you’re going to pull yourself together and we’re going to come up with a plan to get him back. No, we’re not going to be mean and act out the lyrics to some popular country music tune that glorifies random violence upon men by scorned women. (Did you laugh there?) What we’re going to do is make him wonder a bit and get you back to being you because this isn’t the woman that he fell in love with, right? We’re going to let the dust settle a bit and make him miss you a little bit.
At first he might be so happy to be alone, especially if there was a lot of drama going on when you were together. After a while though the anger fades and he will begin to soften. All of this will set the stage for you actually getting him back. Just like most things in life, timing is everything and right now the combination of him not wanting to talk with you and you wanting to talk with him so much… well, it’s just not a good combination and I hope you can see now that it won’t lead you anywhere near getting him back.
Give it some time and try to enjoy the peace and quite a little bit. Try to laugh every day and maybe even do a little retail therapy if you can. The time will be coming when you will have your plan to get him back all set and the moment will be right to make him remember who you are and who he is to you. Some day very soon that connection between the two of you will be restored and you will have your boyfriend back in your loving arms again.
For a plan that has worked to help others get their boyfriend back we recommend Matt Huston’s Get Him Back Forever. Find out the secrets of male psychology and how to push his emotional hot buttons to make him want to be with you again.
Good Luck!
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